You may know that Postpartum Depression is THE most common complication of motherhood, but you may not be aware of the fact that poor body image postpartum increases your risk for PPD ten fold.
I get it. New motherhood is tough. There is no guidebook. There are no rules to follow...and we often feel isolated and alone. There is one big community that is so alluring to all of us new moms, and that is the "get your body back" tribe.
It seems like everywhere you look as a new mom, all you see are women glorifying the thin ideal and making it look effortless to get back into your skinny jeans. It's as if our only badge of honor after having babies is what we look like, and how quickly we can get our bodies back after baby.
I am here to tell you that there is another way and you don't have to diet your way to being a good mom. You can redefine yourself in other bold new ways, because I think, that's what its really about.
In motherhood, we often lose...
One of my first maternal mental health patient's I had during my training at George Washington University was struggling and couldn't really put language to it. She had a history of an eating disorder and depression and had come to see me as a way to prevent that stuff from happening postpartum. She was really on the ball.
It took her some time, but after a few months of working with her she was finally able to articulate how she was feeling. She said, "Dr. Reinold, I think motherhood is just really utilitarian and I think I just don't have fun anymore."
That word she said really stuck with me, and I think a lot of women will be able to relate. I think we often make it our life's purpose to please people and to live for someone outside of ourselves...and it becomes really present as a mom. We are so busy caring for everyone else, that we lose that deep seeded joy. If you have read my book, Let Your Heart Out, you'll know that I equate this deep rooted joy to "heart".
Let me ask you a question...Have you ever been duped before? Have you ever wasted money on something you swore would pay itself off but never did? How about the diet industry...how much money have you spent there? Hundreds...thousands even?
Do you ever look back at the money you invest either for personal or professional gain and feel a little sick to your stomach? You are not alone. So many of us have been there. Today on It's Not About the Food, I interview somatic nutrition and body image coach, Tracy Brown. She opens up about the shame, blame, guilt cycle that goes on in the online business space.
Here are some of the things we discussed in the interview!
Most doctors enter the field of medicine because they want to "help people." No one tells you when you're a young, idealistic teenager who happens to do well in science and math courses that there are many ways to "help people" that don't involve spending 20+ years of your life in some kind of training. But I digress.
When I started medical school, I fit into the masses of idealistic bleeding hearts who wanted to give their all to every patient that walked through their doors. I also wanted all of my patients to lose weight.
I drank the proverbial kool-aid that seeps into every fabric of our being, and traditional medical training no exception, that obesity was an epidemic and that the cure to this public health crisis was to get everyone to lose weight. Spoiler alert: that's not the answer. But more on that later...
Never mind the fact that at this time in my own life, I was over-exercising, under-fueling, losing my hair, not...
Every summer, it's the same scene. The dads are in the pool with the kids, and the moms are huddled in the shade sweating their little tushies off. I'm sure you have seen a similar scene this past summer.
Why do we do that as women? We so badly want to just get in the pool and cool off, have some fun with the family, but we are terrified of what we look like in a swimsuit. So terrified in fact, that we would prefer back sweat to fun.
I get it. Taking your clothes off and exposing yourself in this way can be overwhelming, but friend, you have to rip off the Band-Aid and just swim. Swim because it feels good. Swim because every summer you really want to. Swim because you feel like the you in the corner is missing out.
As we head into fall, I want you to begin this work so that by the time next summer comes, you are ready to confidently tackle the summer and the pool, and the swimsuit regardless of what shape and size you are.
Need more encouragement? Listen...
In today's culture we often associate weight loss with mortality, but rarely do we shine a light on weight loss and morality. Morality, according to Webster is defined as "of or relating to principles of right or wrong behavior". For too long we as human beings have been fed the idea that the definition not only applies to our overall character, but to our food choices as well. Salads are "good" and chips are "bad".
The "diet police" are criticizing every move we make and we are therefore applying our weight and appearance to our inherent worth. Thin people are deemed as "good" and heavier people are, "bad". These self-righteous people who make you think that they are better human beings because they eat "clean" are just plain wrong. You are not a better person for eating a lot of vegetables and controlling your calories and you are not worse if you'd prefer a juicy burger with some boxed macaroni and cheese. Health is a decision we make just like anything else and just as I...
As women, we are so fearful of gaining weight. So often we associate our looks with our ability to first find love, and then stay in love after you get married. It's easier when we are single to achieve that idealistic standard of beauty, but add in a husband, kids, a dog, a house, and a full time job, our time during the day to work on our physical fitness or meal prep becomes almost impossible.
As a result of carrying babies, aging, and time constraints, our bodies physically change and the once dull voice that used to tell us that we need to lose weight is now screaming at is.
This loud mouth who lives in our head is destroying the relationship we have with food and our body, and as a result, we turn to diet culture to "fix" us. We shill out the money for the informercial we see on Sunday morning...we begrudgingly wake up in the wee hours of the morning to squeeze in that at home workout, and we forgo girls night out so that we can be sure to meticulously track our macros...
After seven years of treating patients, I have lost count of the number of moms who have come to me saying the words, "I hate motherhood". Through tear filled eyes, women open up about life as a new mom and their struggle to connect with this new role they are thrust into.
The resounding feeling amongst these women is that they feel like a unicorn amongst the sea of moms they see on social media who seemingly love motherhood.
They often suffer alone, embarrassed to share their feelings with anyone.
The thing is though, these feelings are so very common and talking about it out loud can be one of the best ways to heal. "Me too" are the two most powerful words in the English language after all.
In episode 54 of It's Not About the Food, Julie Kimock joins me for a great conversation about motherhood, transitions, and control. She is one of the brave one's who are willing to be transparent and show other moms that photos are one dimension of someone's life.
During a conversation with a patient the other day, we uncovered that she wasn't struggling with food per say, but recognized that she seemed to have an obsession with exercise. I've been hearing this a lot lately from a few of my patients and friends and so I wanted to bring the conversation here.
A lot of times, when we think of "eating disorders" we think of the more traditional ones like Anorexia and Bulimia. Exercise isn't something often discussed and the messaging behind the importance of daily exercise makes this specific type of disorder more difficult to notice.
In Exercise Bulimia, an individual uses exercise as a way to "purge" or "pay" for ingested calories. Some of the signs of disordered exercise could be exercising when sick, feeling guilt when missing an exercise, not exercising in the "right" way (i.e. walking instead of running), and prioritizing exercise over social engagements, just to name a few.
This disorder is a sneaky one and can be easily...
Hi friends. I am back, and today we are diving head first into the idea of "control". Control manifests itself in so many ways, but can also show up in our behaviors around food and too often, they represent an area of our life where we feel out of control.
There are two common areas where people generally feel out of control.
Often times the control we place over food can be a clue as to where we lack control in our own lives.
Control the times of day that you eat? Perhaps you subconsciously are wanting control over your schedule.
Fast from foods? Perhaps you are wanting a break from something or someone who is causing...